What’s real anyway?

Many times over the past seven years I thought I would quit blogging. Then I would take time off and come back refreshed and ready to write. It’s the writing part I love the most. And sharing what I learned, or saw, or tasted or observed.

Blogging was the vehicle to help me get thoughts out of my head and into a realm where once published they became real. It became a journal of sorts and now when I look back and read posts most times I can put myself right back to that point in time and remember what I was feeling.

When I went away this summer, I kept seeing things I wanted to share in this blog. Things I learned in Ireland. Things I learned in Switzerland. But the essence of these things comes back to learning about me. About my role in the world. About my role in the family.

I spent time going over shared moments with my siblings.
“What do you remember about …?”
“Where were you when ___ happened?”
“When did you …?”

To my surprise, each shared memory included things I didn’t remember. Words were said or not said. The time of day was different. The people in the room varied. It unnerved me that my memory wasn’t their memory. That something was altered, something minor – sometimes it was major. I often wondered if we were really experiencing the same thing.

familyI’m in the process of putting together the puzzle of my childhood. The major historians in the family have all passed away so now I have to seek out the individuals who might be able to toss some memories my way.

I realize now that the stories that were the glue of my childhood are just outlines. Each of us fills in the story in our own way from where we stand. Those moments I was so sure of … vary from sibling to sibling. It was like we all had different versions of the same story.

So, I started to gather up their stories too. To see where they stood, what they thought, how they processed the event. The on-going conversations are engaging and I am learning about the events (car accident, illness, birth, death, travel) again for the first time from another point of view… making it all real again.




3 thoughts on “What’s real anyway?

  1. Hi Marge! Nice post and it’s kind of surreal isn’t it? It’s like something happens, it becomes part of our memory, but something changes…in our minds that make it a little different. And the longer it is there..it sort of evolves…and then there are the versions of the others. Each of us SO sure that ours is the right one…
    Reading your post brought back the thought that this life we lead is but a dream..the maya…the illusion…hehe.

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  2. So, true! Each life is a dream unto itself — one in which we are so sure we know what happened yesterday & today and can share that information. Only to find out that maybe it didn’t happen. Or it happened a totally different way or …
    Thanks so much for your thoughts on this topic. It’s fun, isn’t it to discover or rediscover events through conversations, photos and videos?
    All the best to you!


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