Now what that I am retired?

The story of retirement: Begin here.

One day the building, place, store, cubicle, office, etc. where I used to go daily, and felt connected to … is no longer. I broke ties. They said good-bye. That place is no longer in my world.

Instead, my world is under my command. Get up and exercise. Or not. If not, no one will know except me. Therefore, it’s important to keep up a routine.

At first, I kept to my work-waking hours as a way of penance. That changed slowly. Now, I get up to exercise. To hike. To read. To walk before the heat of the day kicks in.

At first, I stayed in touch with my comrades. Then, it felt like they had lots to talk about and I talked about my walks, hikes, volunteering, books. Mostly I let them talk. I didn’t want them to feel bad that I was having so much fun. I let them talk so I could remember what I didn’t miss. I let them talk because they needed to.

Then, the lunches we promised to make kept getting further away. Maybe they didn’t want to hear about my leisurely life. My travel plans. My cooking lessons.

Now What?

Slowly I found others who spent long hours in the library. Who took classes, music lessons and shopped in the middle of the day. Regular exercise in the gym courtesy of Silver Sneakers is one of the best ways to connect with other retired adults. Silver Sneakers is often part of the insurance program which allows me to sign up with a fitness center, recreation center or gym and attend as if I were a paying member. There are over 9000 centers across the U.S. where I can use my card. Currently, I have gym memberships in six area facilities. When I travel, I look online to see if there is a location near where I am staying. It’s much cheaper to keep healthy than to pay for hospital care. Just saying.

Blogging, Podcasts, Videos:

After checking blog sites, youtube videos and podcasts across the universe and not finding one that spoke to me, I decided to speak to the world of retirees and see if they want to speak to me. I want to know how you organize your world. How you decide on your day. What does it look like?

Do you have a routine?

Are you part of a club? What kind? Cycling, reading, sewing, motorcycle, alumni, music, dance, exercise?

Have you given your time away to others? To ill parents, to grandchildren, to volunteering?

Do you have a ‘bucket’ list of things you plan to do? Are you actively doing them?

Are you willing to share any with me?

Breaking out of the Comfort Zone:

I have a super fun week coming up. It’s a brand new experience. It’s something I said “yes” to and now I am packed and ready to begin. If I have the energy, I will attempt to share it with you next week. It will certainly be worth the wait. You know how it is – scary, exciting, and compelling. Like jumping off a cliff into the beautiful blue water.

Resources:

No Comfort Zone Challenge: Kindness Received

Happiness – Care to Share?

Drop me a line!

 

Making Friends Outside My Circle

I just read an article on 43BlueDoors.com titled Three Keys to Reinventing Your Life by Bonnie Truax. They are: 

  1. Challenge your own thoughts
  2. Live with a purpose
  3. Spend life differently

This article actually offered me something new to think about.  It’s like when I read a book or attend a seminar or find new blogs  – I am always looking for that sweet spark of something I didn’t know before. They don’t often exist, you know.
I like Ted.com and Ted Talks and can immerse myself in various subjects, however, it’s mostly people offering insight, wisdom and steps on various topics but often, it’s the same information over and over. There are no new ideas. Not really.

So when a statement stands out from the rest, it makes me sit taller and pay attention.

Bonnie writes, as a way to reinvent yourself she suggests I make friends with people outside my circle. As I let this sink in, I understand doing this helps me expand my world view, pushes me to be more tolerant, view stories with a new set of eyes and helps me (forces me?) to grow.  Making friends outside my current circle of friends will introduce me to new ideas, arts, music, issues, foods, events and the end result — a better me. And, new friends!

I hope you read Bonnie’s article and find something in it that will push you to grow as well.

And if she doesn’t spark your imagination, keep reading blogs, listening to podcasts, watching youtube.com, read or listen to books, sign up for talks,  or just go to coffee shops and listen in on your neighbor. Who knows, maybe you’ll make a new friend. And, maybe it will be me – I hope so!

Resources & websites:

No Comfort Zone: Week 22!

I did something really out of my comfort zone this week … I didn’t blog. There were a few times I sat at my computer and put my fingers to the keyboard but then pulled back and walked away. It was strange. I wanted to share and yet I also wanted a bit of silence.

I didn’t want my happiness tied up in the amount of posts I did or did not do. While I wasn’t posting I was taking pictures, fly-fishing, hiking, playing, walking, reading and living in every sense of the word.

The one thing I wasn’t doing this week was blogging. It really was hard. Blogging is something I enjoy – I love the ideas, the flow, the sharing and the engagement. It is fun for me. When it stops making me happy and turns into a job – then I close up the Inside Out Café, put the CLOSED on the door and turn out the lights.

That’s not going to happen today.

Instead, I’m going to continue to do things to take me out of my comfort zone because that’s where growth occurs.  I’ll keep you posted on my out of comfort zone progress.

As for staying happy –  you know that’s a big plus in my book! Below are some people who keep happiness high on their priority list. Talk to you soon!

Happiness:

Weekly Photo Challenge: Hands and Happiness
What Makes You Happy

Week 9! No Comfort Zone Update

Ok, how did week 9 get here already? Did you know that we turn our clocks ahead on March 11? Like, isn’t that almost tomorrow?

Colorado has had very warm days with extremely high winds. No snow on the ground and the hint of spring in the air. The trouble is Colorado gets most of it’s snow accumulation in the months of March and April, so no matter how tempting the weather is, I’m not buying it!

This past week has been one of reining myself in an allowing time to heal from my cold and cough. I was out of work 2 days because I had a wicked cough and no voice. None. It’s back now but it gets raspy at the end of the day. Still recovering and giving myself that time and space to heal and not liking being out of my comfort zone.

Last week I made a phone call to a long lost relative who has turned away from the family. It was message number one. I think this week I’ll call again and leave the same message. Either he will answer and we will talk or he will make the decision to stay away. Either way, I’ll stretch my comfort zone until I’m standing on the outside looking back in.

I’ve got nothing to lose and maybe even something to gain. Life is too short to hold grudges, tune out family and use pride as a shield. Only love matters and he’s not letting it in.

Life is a Series of Steps: Measuring Time

It’s that TIME AGAIN

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A Quilted World

Nearby my office is an art show displaying quilts. The variety, colors, uniqueness and originality of each quilt is breathtaking.

And like quilts, each of us is unique, colorful, original and each comes with a variety of patterns, stories, history, and steps that make up the fabric of our lives. I believe we are all meant to shine but we don’t all get to have the spotlight on us. We go through our days dealing with our studies, illness, births, travels, and so much more.  We get in, do what we need to do, we smile, laugh, hope, dream and wish for a better day.

And as we do, the years pass. Look now and see that it is the end of February!

How did the month get by us so fast?

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No Comfort Zone (Week 8!)

It’s time to point the finger again and direct your attention to yet another blogger who’s accepted the NO Comfort Zone Weekly Challenge and jumped in with 2 tasks that took her out of her everyday ho-hum comfort zone and put her in a place where she rarely visits. Take a few minutes and visit Judith at Diabetic Redemption.

And Cris at Odd and Ends Thoughts has joined as well.

Before you head back to your comfy chair, click and read about Carol’s huge leap into a place she didn’t even plan to go.  A baby step for some, a giant step for her! Way to go Carol at Quillfyre!

As for me, I changed the password on my iPod. Think about it. Every time I turn it on, I enter the old password. Simple changes keep my brain cells popping!

No Comfort Zone in Step Motion

This week I plan to get take my hands of the keyboard, push away from my desk and find some stairs to walk.  I work in a building with 84 steps from my floor to the top of my building. Round trip is 168 step. So 3 flights = 504 stairs!

I'd much rather be on this beach in Cinnamon Bay than climbing stairs!
I'd much rather be back on this beach in Cinnamon Bay than climbing stairs!

How about 3 trips per day? Shall we?

Day 1 update: I did one flight up first thing in the morning and realized at 4:15 that I had better get moving and get my next 2 flights in. So I hauled my self out of my comfy work chair and trotted up the steps for a daily total of 504 stairs. The last landing is a burn zone for sure!

Day 2 update: The landing before the last 12 steps kills my thighs! Going down is easy enough but when I go back up — it’s that landing that does me in. Tuesday total 504 stairs. Yum!

Day 3 — I will let you know if the burn lessens today. And for the heck of it, I’ll do my 3 flights and add a building that has 5 floors. That should keep you in suspense! Until tomorrow…

No Comfort Zone-2012 Challenge Begins Soon!

First of all, it will be a challenge to write 2012, won’t it?

Step out of your comfort zoneI’m excited to receive some “I accept” comments and “I’ll cheer you on” comments. My mind is bopping and dancing with a variety of ideas of things out of my comfort zone. There are 3 right now that are tugging at me and I either have to write them down so I remember them tomorrow (ha ha) or just act on them and use them for my first round of blog posts. I’ll let you know what I decide.

FEEL free to spread the word and invite your friends, family and other bloggers to join in the fun!

Be sure to link back here so we can see how you’re stepping out of your comfort zone!

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Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. –-Neale Donald Walsh

I love this quote. It’s where I’m at now learning new software, figuring out paths, recording the paths, communicating my findings. It’s all new, fresh and totally out of my comfort zone.

Know what I mean? Ever taken a chance on something that kept you on edge the whole time- wondering if you were crazy to do something so out of the ordinary – and yet – enjoying the newness of it all?

My trouble is when I’m ready for a change – I leap then look. Most of the time I overthink an issue. Then those other times when I want something different and I want it now … I leap.

Or I say Yes when I should just keep quiet. Or I make a suggestion which often means I get to lead the charge (or the committee.)

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. When you step out of your regular routine, you get that butterfly feeling inside and you feel more alive than ever.

Like writing a blog. How uncomfortable is that? You put words down and publish them along with 200, 000 others on a daily basis! What is everyone writing about? And with all those writers, will anyone read, notice or care about mine?

The answer is –  I care. It gets me out of my comfort zone and I continue to grow and learn.

And share!