Grief and Goodbyes

Last night I received a phone call from a long time friend to tell me her son was killed in a car accident. He was 31 years old.

My world hurt for her and as I rocked back and forth in sorrow, I wanted to call my children and say those last few things that needed to be said.

A quick death, like this one, makes everything surreal. The ground you walk on seems to slip away. The what ifs and should have’s may haunt you but now they are spoken quietly.

At this time, there is nothing I can offer my friend. Sometime when we are together, we will remember Eli as a baby, as a toddler and follow his progression into adulthood. For now, my friend needs time to grieve.

Hugs are sent on angel wings and my love surrounds her.

Maybe just for today:

We live as if there is no tomorrow.
We connect with that person we love.
We say those precious words.
We give hugs.
We ask for hugs.
We live with joy and integrity.
We skip the mundane and focus on the beauty.
We are totally and completely present.
We leave happiness in our wake.

With love to you and yours …. ~Margekatherine~

Support for a Friend

17 thoughts on “Grief and Goodbyes

  1. I am so sorry for your loss, and extra specially sorry for you friend who lost her son. Your thoughts here, your words of wisdom are so important for us to remember each day.

    My prayers are with you and your friend, and her family. I send you a hug on the wings of angels Margekatherine. I know God is with you and all of Eli’s loved ones.


  2. I can’t imagine the pain in your friends heart. How horrible. I feel a deep need to call my children too. We reealy need to make our moments with our loved ones count. Take nothing for-granted. My prayers are with you and your friend.


  3. Prayers are with your friend and her family. Those loses are the toughest of all…we just lost a sweet dear friend in a car accident a couple of weeks ago..last May we lost our son’s best friend who was caught in a rip tide and drown….two big tough losses…yes, it does make you evaluate your life and see the true things of what is important.


  4. I’m so, so sorry for the loss of your young friend. I hope you were able to connect with your children to help ease your hurt. Nothing is worse than a quick loss. Today is my brother-in laws birthday. He died 2 years ago after sitting in his daughters house fora cup of tea. His heart just stopped. We’re all still in shock. My husband still waits for his brother in walk in the back door. So, my heart is with you and your friends family. Learning to cope with a quick loss like this, is so hard.
    My deepest sympathy to you…..


  5. I think losing a child is a parent’s worst nightmare. All those hopes and dreams that you had for your child is gone. All those unsaid things -those hugs and smiles – are no longer.

    And the sadness comes over the course of time… when there is a song on the radio, or a certain smell in the air or on those special holidays … like a wave, knocking us down all over again.

    Thank you all for your love, concern, prayers and strength. This virtual world of ours is so powerful, isn’t it?



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