This is a repost from May 30, 2010:
Instead, Every Day the American public should express thanks to our veterans and soldiers. If we were more caring and appreciative on a daily basis instead of squeezing our thanks in between a cold beer and a softball game, NASCAR race or Bolder Boulder on our day off, then perhaps veterans would be more honest with us about their experience and the stress they are dealing with each day.
What is it that is capturing their souls and leading our soldiers to commit suicide in record numbers? In the past five years the suicide rate among soldiers was the highest since 1980 when they were first recorded.
Military suicides make up 20% of all suicides in the US. And for every death, five members of the armed forces tried to take their lives and were hospitalized instead.
The government is trying to stem this human exodus and is deploying mental health experts to work with the returning soldiers and their families. In the beginning, when a soldier was deployed, he or she had the support of family back home. However, as the deployments were extended and increased, the support back home began to have their own mental health issues.
For the families left behind dealing with their own anxieties, running the household, making ends meet, parenting their children, holding down a job and fearing for the safety of their loved one, they may not have the strength to offer the support and hope to their spouse that they once had. They may be seeking mental health help for themselves, taking meds and antidepressants and trying to get support for their children.
In addition to being away from home, fighting a war that doesn’t end, with no actual date of return … these soldiers are learning about the stress they’ve put their family under. So to help out, they share less. They communicate less. They take the burden off the family back home as a way to protect them and hold it all inside.
And when they return home – they are wounded. Some are wounded on the outside, others on the inside and many suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This disorder is commonly found in people who have lived through a traumatic event that caused them fear, stress and a sense of helplessness. They live in a cycle of despair. And for those who are killed in action? What sort of grief counseling is available? Their biggest fears have unfolded and besides their family circle, they are alone.
In Canada, according to my blogging friend Rebekah, there is a stretch of highway from Trenton, Ontario to Toronto, Ontario called the Highway of Heroes.
This route is used to transport the bodies of soldiers and where citizens line the road to pay their last respects. This Highway of Heroes is a public statement that shouts ” Thank You” for all you’ve done.
It is a fitting tribute for the family and a good way for the community to join together to show support and appreciation.
I’d rather not have any more deployed soldiers, stressed out families, military suicides or war. Until that changes, let’s find the support for these families and not leave them in pain.
- Memorial Day Awakening (mkmercurio.wordpress.com)
- Returning vets encounter VA mental health meltdown (msnbc.msn.com)
- Veterans need jobs, better health care, leading military official says (politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com)
- Honoring the Wounded (mutterschwester.wordpress.com)